Will he propose sooner than later?

by Amanda
(Seattle, WA)

I have been dating my boyfriend, very seriously, for a year now. Been living together for 7 months. Since very early on, we both were extremely passionate about each other, as well as serious. I know without a doubt in my mind, that he loves me and want to be with me for the rest of his life. He has even stated, that he wouldn't be in this relationship, unless he knew that I was the woman he wanted to marry. However, he has made it confusing as to when he might ask me to marry him. He brings it up occasionally, but he also tells me how happy I make him, that he is so in love with me, that I make him a better man. In a conversation though, I asked if it was realistic to think that we might get engaged within the next year, and he said I don't know. He said he is waiting for the perfect time, and that this is in his control, not mine. That I need to just go with the flow and let things happen as they are meant to.


My question, is he just playing me for a fool, or is a valid reasoning for a guy? Its not that I want to get married tomorrow, but I think in the next year, we should take another step forward; especially if he tells me all the time, that he couldn't imagine not being with me, and that marriage will happen someday.

Thank you for your time.

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Nov 08, 2013
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Anytime!!!
by: Lemon & Autumn, "L.A."

Not to worry yourself, we have that kind of intuition if something is amiss. Hope for the best and let nature take it's course.

PS. I can understand now why such pressure with him being away from home a lot. Don't worry everything will go well for you. Believe!

Wishing You All The Best In Love~

Nov 07, 2013
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Thank you!
by: Amanda

I appreciate your insight, and deep down I know that by bringing it up all the time, I am taking away from the "surprise" of being proposed to. I would never want him to feel forced into asking; because it won't be genuine, and we would both end up resenting each other, or at least the occurrence of the proposal afterwards. I guess, I submitted this question, because he also works away from home a lot. He knows the sacrifices I make, back at home, to help us stay strong; and he thinks that I deserve to have more security and peace when he is away. I just wanted to ask, if his sincerity of wanting to marry me and such, is just a ploy to string me along as long as he can, or if he is being genuine and just keeping the engagement a secret and in his control. Thank you again, I appreciate your time and advice.

Nov 07, 2013
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Patience is a Virtue!
by: Lemon & Autumn, "L.A."

Hi Amanda!

I understand that you and your love have been together for a year and have been living together 7 months and because of that, your bond and love for one another is growing stronger with each passing day. Love is something that cannot be rushed or sped up. Love happens naturally when it feels right!

I don't think that he is playing you for a fool about getting married but I think you are removing the element of surprise. He's right to tell you that it is in his control and you need to go with the flow. Sometimes we become so anxious about the things we want, that we end up ruining the moment or cannot tell when that moment has come and gone. Do yourself a favor and just relax, take a step back and stop asking!!! Don't mention it anymore. If you have a cap on how long you two will be roomies without marriage keep it to yourself for now. Allow him the time and space he needs to present his love for you in his own way, when he is ready and when he feels it's the right time. Stop pressuring him because you're beginning to take the fun out of it and could ultimately slow down the process or back him away altogether.

At this point he heard what you said and he's working on it. Now it's time to wait & see.

Wishing You The Best In Love~

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