What should I do ?

I am 25 year old female student and have been in a relationship with my Boss who sponsors my education and my family works for him too. He is a 52 year old man and has kids and family who are living abroad. I still like him and would want him if he is not married, but I can't leave him and move on either because my family depends on him financially. He says he likes me but he had once broken my trust and I don't believe him anymore. I just want to maintain a work relationship but sometimes our past relationship causes friction with the present working relationship and that makes things very stressful.

Please help me in how should I deal with his situation.

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Nov 08, 2013
Do what you feel is right!
by: Lemon & Autumn, "L.A."

Hi there!

Unfortunately you have already crossed the boss/employee boundary, it's almost like teacher/student but I won't elaborate on that because the damage has already been done.

Your boss is sponsoring your education and your family depends on him financially. What a mess you have created here. But you cannot cry over spilled milk now, instead let's figure out a solution to this overall problem. I understand you want a working relationship now but the fact is, things will never be the same. So below are a few suggestions that could possibly help you out:

- Have a heart to heart with your boss and let him know how you really feel about the entire situation. Let him know that you are feeling stressed at work because of this mess and discuss with him the options of if you left if he would continue to do or stop the financial backing/obligations to you and your family. Never hurts to ask.

- Consult with your family and tell them how you feel. Get their advice on the situation and ask them what they would think about calling it quits and losing their financial grounding. (Get the basics from the discussion and the decision is ultimately yours. Sometimes people only do or say things that will work in their favor. Family or not be mindful.)

- Start looking for another job! If the stress is beginning to get the best of you, it's time you make some necessary changes.

- Take matters into your own hands regardless of your families opinion. End it all and find your own way in life.

So as you can see it's not the end of the world. You have plenty of options to straighten things out for your mental state of mind. Ultimately, the choice is yours to make. Whatever you decide, make sure it's the right thing to do, something you can live with and makes you happy - bottom-line. At the end of the day it's your life and you have to make the best of it! Good Luck!!!!

Wishing You The Best In Love~

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