Should I be guilty about moving on with his help?

by Zaira
(India)

A month back I broke up with my serious boyfriend. I am not over him and miss him every now and then. But I have a friend who likes me and I like him too. I love being with him and his presence makes me happy. But this liking has turned into flings. We kiss but every time we do, it makes me feel guilty. Because he is pretty sure about his strong feelings for me but I am not sure whether I will ever want to date him since I am not willing to be in anymore relationships. I am not yet over my boyfriend but somewhat feels for the other guy .

I have tried to escape our friendship because it makes me feel guilty about my confusing thoughts but when he is around, it is so not controllable to be without talking to him. How do I escape the situation . Do I tell him we should not talk or should I continue with whatever is happening?

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Oct 23, 2013
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The choice is yours...
by: Lemon & Autumn,

One of the best parts about being an adult is making better decisions when it comes to our romantic lives.

Live and learn is a key element in your case. You say you're not ready for anymore relationships because you're still not over your previous relationship, which is understandable. This means not only do you need space, you need time to heal. You should communicate your feelings to your friend who you seem to be growing fond of. Tell him how you feel guilty and that you haven't had enough time to properly heal from your relationship. If he is falling for you then he will understand and give you your space and time. Sometimes we fall into a pattern of jumping in and out of relationships and rarely have time to have an intervention with ourselves. Time to recouperate, breath, enjoy ourselves again, become independent again, almost like learning to walk all over again. It's not good to be confused about a situation that you can control because in the end you will hurt everyone involved.

Wishing You The Best In Love~

Oct 23, 2013
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The choice is yours...
by: Lemon & Autumn, "L.A."

One of the best parts about being an adult is making better decisions when it comes to our romantic lives.

Live and learn is a key element in your case. You say you're not ready for anymore relationships because you're still not over your previous relationship, which is understandable. This means not only do you need space, you need time to heal. You should communicate your feelings to your friend who you seem to be growing fond of. Tell him how you feel guilty and that you haven't had enough time to properly heal from your relationship. If he is falling for you then he will understand and give you your space and time. Sometimes we fall into a pattern of jumping in and out of relationships and rarely have time to have an intervention with ourselves. Time to recouperate, breath, enjoy ourselves again, become independent again, almost like learning to walk all over again. It's not good to be confused about a situation that you can control because in the end you will hurt everyone involved.

Wishing You The Best In Love~

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