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The Love Chamber Xpress, Issue #014 -- You've Tried Everything!
September 06, 2013
Love is on Top!
Welcome to The Love Chamber Xpress, Special Issue 014. Today's issue will be very brief but informative. I just returned from my B-Day Vacay and it was Fantay LOL (personal joke). I have included creative ideas/tips for the month, a recipe of love, a mood booster and will include a Share the Wealth shared file on the next issue. Enjoy!
There is a very special birthday this month, is it yours? If so...
I would like to wish all VIRGOS across the globe a "Very Happy Birthday" :) May you live happily in love and peace. YOU ROCK!
What’s your problem?
There are a million and one reasons why relationships go through difficulties. There may be external factors that have put pressures and stresses on your relationship – such as problems at work, a new baby, money, difficulties with other family members, etc. Infidelity could be another reason. There may not have been one incident in itself, but a gradual build up of resentment and bitterness over the years caused by smaller disagreements that have taken their toll on the relationship. The little things that you always saw as ‘cute’ and ‘adorable’ when you first got together now might grate on you intensely.
Unrealistic expectations of your relationship?
So you’ve been together for quite some time. When you first got together, things were so exciting and your partner paid you lots of attention and showered you with gifts and love and affection. Things are not the same anymore. In fact, you can’t help but look around at others…couples walking down the street hand in hand, friends you know gushing about their other half, and telling you what a great relationship they have and have sex 3 times daily, happily ever after stories on film and tv….
Everyone feels like this from time to time in a relationship. It really is quite normal. Things are not going to be the same as when you first got together. In fact, things could be much better. That first flutter of giddy love and excitement does not and cannot last. What you have could be so much more than that. Excitement does not have to go out of the window, but your relationship grows into something else. Something more. A deeper and greater understanding, respect and love for one another.
Putting the past to rest Hurtful things that have been said and done in the past, infidelity, disappointment and bitterness felt by actions taken by your partner. These are all difficult things that can be experienced in a relationship and they can be even more difficult to get over. Unfortunately, you cannot have a brain autopsy and forget but you can leave these things in the past and move forward with your future. You can never forget but you can forgive. With good communication with your partner and support if needed by a professional, you can learn to put the past to rest and move on. It may be that there is an issue that even by talking through with each other, you come to no resolution over. Sometimes you have to ‘agree to disagree’ and move forward. Even loving couples cannot agree on everything and being able to overlook certain things is essential for the survival of any relationship.
Sex - How sexually fulfilled do you feel? Are you happy with the frequency of sex in your relationship?
Fun - Sense of humor. Shared interests. How much do you laugh together?
Shared values - Do you have a similar philosophy of life and moral code?
Common goals - Are you heading in the same direction? Do you want the same things or is there room for compromise?
Social life - Friends and family. How happy are you with the level and quality of interaction you have with them?
Conflict resolution - How well do you both manage disagreements? Do you respect each others boundaries? Are you able to ask for what you need?
Communication - Do you know what's going on in each other’s life and are you both interested?
Chores - How happy are you both with the way chores are shared?
Emotional support - How supportive is your partner especially in times of stress and illness?
Career support - How supportive is your partner of your career or other aspirations?
And finally…a loving and lasting relationship is about:
Need a Mood Booster
Sometimes we get so bogged down with the circumstances of life that we forget to take care of ourselves. Today is your lucky day! Here are a few mood boosters to get your muscles relaxed, time to yourself and spruce up your level of creativity to help out with your mental state of mind.
What's Cooking at The Love Chamber
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